Dating a guy who is shorter
Short men have been considered "less than" by a culture that still equates height with masculinity, and this has opened their eyes to what a crock traditional gender roles can be.
Obviously, not all short guys are male feminists, and not all tall guys are cavemen who think you should go make them a sandwich.
Are we saying that we believe that it's sexually ideal that women take up as little space as possible, that we're at our most attractive when we look itty bitty compared to our male partner?
Though the paper didn't delve into why this disparity exists, I think we might be able to chalk it up to empathy.
When we stood side-by-side, his penis was about even with my abdomen, which made sex exactly as awkward as you'd imagine. Trust this 1993 study, published in the way-too-entertaingly-titled Annals of Sex Research, which found that there was basically no connection between height and penis size. But soon after we got together, he asked why I had so many heels that I never wore.
Trying to reconcile height disparities while boning involved a lot of crouching on unstable structures made out of stacked pillows and crawling around on tables, trying to use my D in high school Geometry to make all the angles line up. It turned out that he loved me in heels — and also, he had made his peace with his height and his body, and didn't need me to change the way I dressed or the things I liked to make him feel more like a man.
The man is the shorter partner in only four percent of heterosexual pairings. If you ask any height-obsessed woman — or me, a decade ago — they'll probably feed you some line about a tall man making them feel "safe" or "tiny." But let's unpack that for a second.
What are we saying when we say we want a big man to make us feel tiny?
But short men have a different cultural experience than tall men, and I believe that this can make them excellent lovers, amazing boyfriends, and sensitive partners.