Dating inner game
And thanks to television shows and "pickup artist" stuff, women know all about the routines and openers you use.
That gray outer game bubble is weak and tiny because you're forced to "fake" a lot more than you should have to. Now, just imagine what would happen when your Inner Game and your Outer Game are complete and congruent.
You know what you SHOULD be doing, but when you try to do it, there's this invisible force that stops you. I had a bad temper, and I could barely control myself when I was around an attractive girl.
I would start acting up - just like a little bratty kid.
BUT the fact is that you simply cannot run completely on "Outer Game" scripts either - on techniques and routines - all by themselves.
Otherwise you end up with game that looks like this: This is what you don't want...
See that small area where "inner game" and "outer game" intersect?
Women want it from us, and guys spend most of their lives working on feeling it and showing it.
..you're barely maintaining your level of confidence with women - and sometimes you feel like you're actually back-sliding in your game?
..your emotions and your feelings make you do crazy things - stuff you can't seem to control? And the worst part of this feeling is that NO ONE in your life ever sat you down and explained just how confidence really works, did they? Well, stick with me, because there's something else you need to know about how confidence REALLY works.
Ultimately, it really boils down to a feeling of control over your own life.
You don't want to feel like other people control your success with women. I know a lot of guys that would tell you that you don't need techniques - that if you have the inner game confidence, then your outer game is automatic. I'm sure you've felt confidence walking up to a woman and found that your tongue was tied and your head got all foggy the second you tried to say something.I know how shaky I used to feel with women, and knowing it was my inner confidence holding me back.And the worst part of this for me was knowing that - not only was it ME doing this to myself - but the fact that...If you don't have the confidence and psychology mastered in advance, you probably won't even get past the approach - IF you even approach her at all.