Dating the talk
So things like that, but I also wanted somebody who would go to far-flung, exotic places, like Petra, Jordan.I also wanted somebody who would weigh 20 pounds more than me at all times, regardless of what I weighed.So once I had all this done, I then built a scoring system, because what I wanted to do was to sort of mathematically calculate whether or not I thought the guy that I found online would be a match with me. I have just found the Jewish Prince Charming of my family's dreams.I figured there would be a minimum of 700 points before I would agree to email somebody or respond to an email message. I found Jewishdoc57 who's incredibly good-looking, incredibly well-spoken, he had hiked Mt. He likes to travel as long as it doesn't involve a cruise ship. There was only one problem: He didn't like me back.I figure about half of that are men, so that takes the number down to 750,000.I'm looking for a guy between the ages of 30 and 36, which was only four percent of the population, so now I'm dealing with the possibility of 30,000 men.Very few of us have the ability to be totally and brutally honest with ourselves. What was every single possible thing that I could think of that I was looking for in a mate?The other problem is that these websites are asking us questions like, are you a dog person or a cat person? So I started writing and writing and writing, and at the end, I had amassed 72 different data points.
So what I did was, I went through and I prioritized that list.These algorithms had a sea full of men that wanted to take me out on lots of dates — what turned out to be truly awful dates. He was ordering multiple appetizers, multiple entrées, for me as well, and suddenly there are piles and piles of food on our table, also lots and lots of bottles of wine. These algorithms were doing exactly what they were designed to do, which was to take our user-generated information, in my case, my résumé, and match it up with other people's information. So there's a certain amount of superficiality in that data. I'm going to keep using these online dating sites, but I'm going to treat them as databases, and rather than waiting for an algorithm to set me up, I think I'm going to try reverse-engineering this entire system.So we're nearing the end of our conversation and the end of dinner, and I've decided Steve the I. guy and I are really just not meant for each other, but we'll part ways as friends, when he gets up to go to the bathroom, and in the meantime, the bill comes to our table. See, the real problem here is that, while the algorithms work just fine, you and I don't, when confronted with blank windows where we're supposed to input our information online. So knowing that there was superficial data that was being used to match me up with other people, I decided instead to ask my own questions.One, I can take my grandmother's advice and sort of least-expect my way into maybe bumping into the one out of 35 possible men in the entire 1.5-million-person city of Philadelphia, or I could try online dating.