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So, I learned how to negotiate, influence, and set boundaries. But, in reality, it means giving all of your time, money, energy, and love to someone else for nothing more in trade than the occasional lip service of "you're wonderful" and "I love you".So, I learned to trade value for value..for emotional validation. I also have the type of relationship that many say are impossible in this country and time.
Consider this a bit of a prelude :) I think I might also incorporate a bit more "me" into my future blog posts as well.
I also learned to be socially skilled in ways that were charismatic, confident, and attractive.
I earned an advanced education too and work at making money in various ways.
It just means I had to bring something of value beyond that to exchange with others - especially when I wanted something of value from them too! Either way, it is trading effort and value for nothing more than an ego-boost.
Yes, I dodged the bullet of staying stuck in my rut of entitlement and frustration. You see, once you have value...others often want to steal, manipulate, and cheat to get it. I thought that my date would appreciate me spending my hard-earned money on her. I didn't hold others to my own boundaries and standards. The truth is that they (and I) just made really bad trades in our neediness and low self-esteem.
Rather, I share them to highlight a different path.