Friend dating my ex etiquette
Presuming that the four of you are all friends, try your best not to choose sides or leave either of them out in the cold.
"Divorcing spouses often find they lose friends and are excluded from events they normally attended, which is a shame," says Swann.
You may find that your friend is in tighter financial straits immediately after her divorce, particularly if she was a stay-at-home mom during the marriage, or has had to move because she could no longer afford the mortgage.
This sudden change in lifestyle may make her retreat a bit more from her social life.
"You can say, 'I'm sorry you feel that way, but I still enjoy spending time with Jane. If he's adamant about you breaking it off, you may have to decide if the friendship is worth risking your relationship with your brother, adds Lancer.
Your best friend has become sensitive about the topic of money post-divorce; instead of discussing the subject, she avoids making plans with you.
"We don't like the picture changing, which makes us feel awkward." Plus, she adds, it might bring up uncomfortable feelings about our own marriage (If it can happen to them…) Here, nine issues that often arise when someone you know divorces, and how to handle them with grace.
A good friend just told you that she's getting a divorce and you don't know the right way to respond.
If the female half of the couple is asking you to drop her ex from your friend list, tell her—as kindly as you can—that you're there to be her friend, but you're not actually angry with her ex, says Lancer.If your families have always been close, you may find yourself in the position of being your friends' kids' confidant."Their children may talk to you before they talk to their own parents," notes Swann.In truth, you don't know—and never will know—if her divorce is truly a mistake because none of us really understands what goes on behind closed doors.