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If all an Army spouse had to do was email her soldier’s commander to get him home from deployment, don’t you think ALL Army spouses would be doing this? The Army does not allow leave requests from Army family members. There are ATMs on any main post and the PX accepts debit and credit cards. Last time I checked we aren’t on a lot of peacekeeping missions in Nigeria and Syria.
In fact, even in the case of the death of an immediate family member, the information has to be verified by the American Red Cross before the soldier’s command is contacted for possible leave by officials at the Red Cross – they don’t just take your word for it. He wants you to pay for a phone line, cell phone or calling card so you can talk to each other. My husband deployed multiple times and we never paid for a single phone call. Not to mention, soldiers are making enough to buy a phone card if they really had to. He’s about to retire and then he can marry you and live happily ever after. LOL A General will have well over 20 years of service and less than 1% of officers will make it to the rank of General. If he says he’s somewhere that there isn’t an ATM or another way to get money, there is also nothing for him to spend money on. And if we were, a real soldier wouldn’t tell you that. I originally had other questions you could ask regarding his training, etc, but I’m removing those because many people believed whatever ridiculous information he came up with when they asked.
Then all of the sudden disaster strikes and he needs three grand to be able to come home. I hate to be harsh but if any of the above sounds familiar, it’s a SCAM. You’re not the lucky one who’s encountered these signs but somehow your guy is the real deal. Finally, if you don’t believe me, please read this article from the Army – Soldier Scams If this article helps you or has kept you from becoming the victim of a scam (or sending him even more money), please consider donating to help maintain this website so that others will be able to utilize this information as well. Stacey is an Army wife of a soldier who joined in 2003.
He has since been medically retired but she continues to provide information to Army wives and families to make their adjustment to the Army lifestyle easier.
Continuing to talk to their loved one that they knew before deployment? And when you’re thousands of miles away from each other, he doesn’t have the opportunity to sleep with you. Many of these stories contain comments about him saying he loves you within a few days/weeks of starting to talk or he wants to marry you as soon as he returns. And they’re doing this to many others at the same time they’re doing it to you. Go back and read the first line in bold at the top of this article.
Let’s get this straight – you haven’t met and certainly haven’t had the opportunity to have any kind of physical relationship, yet he wants to marry you? If you’re even hesitating on the answer, I’ll help you. It’s just who is going to open up access to their bank account first. Or even better, he told you he is in fact a scammer but he REALLY loves you….long as you keep sending him money. I don’t care if he asks you to mail him a penny – a real soldier will NOT ask you for money.
Then the supposed CO sends back a letter asking for money to connect a phone line or some other complete lie. He says one of the following…parents died, his wife died in his arms, his wife was killed in a car accident along with all of his children, his children are orphaned and living in some remote location, or he was orphaned……all LIES. And I mean if this was for real and that kind of luck follows him, why do you want to be with him? He says he doesn’t have a mailing address because either he is in a classified unit or his position changes so often.
Even in special operations, he’ll have an APO address.
Some of these scumbags are using the pictures of soldiers who were killed in action to run their scams. Someone told me once they were dating a General and she even had pictures. What’s funny is he’ll type over the only legitimate information on the card and replace it with something that makes no sense. The pictures they use many times on military IDs are so fake and it’s so obvious.And this is not a post office box and it’s not in Nigeria!!It also has nothing to do with a Western Union office.And you don’t have to send it through a relative because he can’t give out his address. He says he needs you to pay for his R&R leave because the Army doesn’t pay for it. A real soldier will not request money to travel home as he doesn’t need it!
The Army pays for all travel to and from a war zone.
Single women can find him on the dating site Date Me Mate Me.com, where he confesses to being, “Very new to this dating thing and am looking to see where this takes me.” At Fish Meet Fish.com, under the username Real Chandler, he explains, “I would love my first date to be something special.” At Girls Datefor Free.com, Chandler describes himself as being 6-2 and weighing 158 pounds.