Queen nasty chat
How did we even get to this place where women don’t feel comfortable advocating for each other in the workplace — but rather feel like there’s a power struggle or jealous feelings between them and any other female coworker?
, social linguistics professor Barbara Tannen describes how boys and girls learn different approaches to conversation.
Finally, you may have no choice but to confront her.
This approach is not without risk, but sometimes, it’s unavoidable.
Most of these women are generous and believe that teamwork in the workplace, and helping other women succeed, is a win-win.
But occasionally we do run into people like Jennifer, who may not particularly want to help female colleagues in their own office, but can at least understand that women benefit by banding together on workplace issues more generally.
Though this tactic involves emotional fortitude, there’s a reason for the saying “Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.” It’s human nature to reciprocate kindness, and even if your antagonistic coworker doesn’t warm up, you may at least be able to diffuse some of her competitive instincts. Moreover, complaining and gossiping in the workplace can reflect poorly upon your character and leadership skills.
Hold your head up high by knowing you are confident enough to be discreet, and find your emotional outlet through friends or family, outside work.
On the other hand, some women shared horrible stories about female colleagues who made their lives miserable, often for seemingly no reason.
But bullying in the workplace — while it’s often more subtle than bullying in school might be — is an unfortunate reality for many of us.