Rating and dating
But her face, her body, her personality, her life situation, all just one rung up," Toney said."If they had only talked to you first, they wouldn't be in this mess! To read an exerpt from "The Rating Game," click here.Part 1: A Brief History of Dating and Courtship in America Let's turn our attention now to "dating" and the "date" itself. How did it become such an important part of our courtship system? According to cultural historian Beth Bailey, the word was probably originally used as a lower-class slang word for booking an appointment with a prostitute.These dates had to be highly visible, and with many different people, or they didn't count." Ken Myers summarizes this system, " catchwords hammered home, reinforced from all sides until they became the natural vocabulary.You had to rate in order to date, to date in order to rate.Beth Bailey and Ken Myers explain in the Mars Hill Audio Report, , demonstrated through the number and variety of dates a young adult could command, sometimes even on the same night.In the late 1940s, Margaret Mead, in describing this pre-war dating system, argued that dating was not about sex or marriage.By the late 1940s and early 1950s demographic realities began to sink in: There was a shortage of men.After World War II, due in part to the fact that 250,000 men never came home, for the first time in the United States, women outnumbered men.
In 1937, sociologist Willard Waller published a study in the .Toney says that Aniston "dates down" a lot." "It's hard in the celebrity world. You're talking about people who most of us would see at perfect tens," Toney explained."Once you get into their world, they really start to see it differently."When it comes to Jon and Kate Gosselin of TLC's "Jon & Kate Plus 8," Toney says she understands why their relationship may be in trouble."I've seen it so many times," she said.College men will think, ." She also suggested that you get your mom back home to send you flowers from time to time, again, to give the impression of popularity.
The article went on to say that if, for some reason, you did not have a date on a particular night, you should keep the lights off in your dorm room so no one would know you were home.
According to Toney, the rating system works in four areas: face, body, personality, and life situation.