Selfish dating
25-Jan-2017 23:50
The newer, prevailing cultural view of marriage differs radically from the traditional, Catholic understanding of the sacrament of marriage and contributes to the growth of selfishness in spouses and of marital conflicts. Brad Wilcox, the director of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia, has written about these contrasting views of marriage, "In the new psychological approach to marriage, one's primary obligation was not to one's family but to one's self; hence, marital success was defined not by successfully meeting obligations to one's spouse and children but by a strong sense of subjective happiness in marriage -- usually to be found in and through an intense, emotional relationship with one's spouse.
, Christopher Lasch describes how the past provides a framework for judging contemporary behavior as good or bad.One of the major causes of excessive anger in marriages is the result of narcissistic conflicts in a spouse.These individuals regularly engage in very controlling behaviors and then overreact in anger if they cannot have their own way.This description is psychologically correct because selfishness, while falsely appearing to have many benefits, actually turns the person in upon himself/herself, thereby interfering with healthy self-giving which is essence of marital love.