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Eventually he came to accept my choice, though it was very difficult for him.When my boyfriend asked my parents for my hand in marriage, he reassured my father that he understood the importance of Judaism in our lives and would honor and uphold Jewish traditions and values.Most of the Jewish people I know well don’t consider themselves religious at all. However, most of the Jewish people I know are also somewhat observant Jews, which means that they go to Temple on some of the Jewish Holy days, and sometimes observe the Sabbath ritual, not because of the religious significance for them, but because it’s a cultural tradition that they cherish.This is how we approach it, mostly, in my house, and my husband was raised Catholic, and doesn’t know much about Judaism. I don’t think many non-Jews know that this is common in so many Jewish homes.I didn't think he would have had the heart to do it, but the relationship ended before his will was tested.I loved my father dearly, respected his convictions even when we didn't always agree, and ascribed great importance to his opinions.The Reform rabbi we'd asked to marry us counseled my dad several times before our wedding, helping him work through his conflicted feelings.About a year after our beautiful Jewish wedding, we found out we were having a baby boy.
Sure, I shared my father's concerns about the survival of the Jewish people and, though it might sound stereotypical, was aware of the cultural differences between our Jewish family and his non-Jewish one. In my family we addressed our feelings openly; his tended to ignore uncomfortable issues, hoping they would just go away.
However challenging, I believed that intermarriage could work and I could have a Jewish home, raise a Jewish family, and contribute to Jewish peoplehood.