Tracey cox dating advice
In most cases, the warning signs are there right from the very start.In fact, it’s entirely possible you can predict exactly what’s going to break you up, by watching and listening carefully on the first three dates.Watch out for any (God forbid all) of these earning warning signs that suggest your seemingly perfect date has all the hallmarks of a future disaster. Most of us are suckers for up-and-down relationships when we’re younger (we’ve got the time and energy).We tend to equate stormy, tempestuous relationships with grand, passionate love. When we’re older and have work commitments and other pressures, they’re usually not worth the effort.The less judgemental and balanced they are, when telling you why past relationships didn’t work, the more reasonable and kind they’re going to be as a partner.Not turning up on time, forgetting where you were supposed to meet, missed trains, double booking – if any of this happens on the first three dates, you’re hooking up with someone who is happy living in chaos.His eyes kept darting towards the window and the door and he kept the music ridiculously low.
If it’s up and down right from the start, pay attention.
It’s ironic, but we’ll put up with far worse personally than we will for other people we care about.
Did they cancel, rearrange or cut short any of the dates because of work?
If you’re saying things like ‘No, I didn’t mean that at all’ every second sentence or they’re moody, defensive and over-react to situations, there’s a problem.
Some people like arguing and will deliberately pick fights.
At the time, you laugh and feel secretly smug: you know you’re not a nutter, so all will be fine.