Trust your gut in dating
Women usually allow their egos to get so entangled in their relationships that when the relationship collapses, their ego comes crashing down with it and digging yourself out of that rubble is an absolute nightmare.
In a good, strong, healthy relationship, you feel loved and secure.
In time, my instincts gave me a big “I told you so.” Everything I suspected turned out to be true and the most painful breakup probably in the history of the world (or at least, in the history of my life) followed.
Looking back, it’s frustrating to think how much time, energy, and hurt I would have spared myself had I listened to my instincts. Eric and I noticed that the girls who ask us super long winded questions–padding what could be a simple one sentence questions with a million examples and justifications–are the least likely to take the advice we offer and will instead counter with an equally long-winded rebuttal to everything we have to say (that is, if what we say isn’t what they want to hear, which it probably won’t be since what they want to hear is: “The fact that he never texts you back or won’t call you his girlfriend means nothing, this guy is The reason we know these girls won’t listen is because all they’re hearing is the clatter of justifications instead of the sound guidance of their gut.
It seems like he’s losing interest in you and you worry that soon he’s going to just leave.
Do you know what to do to get things back on track?
In fact, according to a recent story in New Scientist, “it turns out that because our emotions emerge from our unconscious mind, from our internal supercomputer, they tend to reflect more information than our rational mind.” What this means is our gut instinct can save us from a lot of grief.
Here are a few tips to help you get better acquainted with your gut: 1. It can help to get an outsider’s perspective, sometimes we can mistake wishful thinking for our gut instincts. Most people live their lives bouncing from one thing to the next- work, errands, happy hour.
The point is, most of the time you already know the answer.Ask yourself a question and listen for the immediate answer. If it’s a bad decision you’ll feel an aversion to it, usually in the pit of your stomach. Talk to a friend you trust for a dose of objectivity. There isn’t that much time to listen to our own thoughts.For example, if you’re debating whether or not to dump your boyfriend, ask yourself: “Should I break up with him? The real answer will most often come first, then the excuses and justifications will pile on top. Try to stay mindful and conscious throughout the day, check in to see what you’re thinking and feeling. You can use this time to meditate, do yoga, journal, take a walk around the park–anything that will give you the space to check in with yourself.If not, read this next: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This...
The next issue arises at that inevitable point when the man asks himself: Do I want to commit to this woman for the long term? Do you know what makes a man see a woman as girlfriend/wife material? If not, you need to read this too: The #1 Things Men Desire in a Woman Got more techniques for trusting your gut?And as women, we have the upper hand and have been given the gift of “women’s intuition.” It’s something we all possess and it can be fine tuned to work optimally.The way to get in touch with it is to listen to what it’s telling you.It has stored up pretty much everything that’s ever happened to us and makes decisions accordingly.