What to say when contacting online dating
When guys search the member directory for women, they are often able to filter by common interests.And let’s say your profile is confusing about the type of guy you’re looking for and the type of relationship you are seeking.You have the advantage of judging his body language. Even if I’m totally into his pictures, there is no way he’s getting my digits until I know everything about him. If I’m still interested after getting to know him, my digits are all his. If he doesn’t make it to at least 8 points, he FAILS. I was so into our discussion that the thought never crossed my mind. Here I was, an inexperienced online dater, and I’ve got the most perfect guy after me.When a guy approaches us online, it’s a bit trickier to determine the type of guy he is. His occupation, if he has kids, where he lives, what his interests are, how big his package is. Spend all those years being the student and dreamed of being the one giving out grades? Oh, and if the answer is “no” for the first question, it’s an automatic FAIL. Was he polite and respectful in his first email/contact? What most women don’t realize is a lot of guys online copy and paste email templates to send to women. When you’re communicating over the Internet, it gives him time to either think up a decent answer or ask someone else for a good way to respond. After going back and checking this guy out following our date, there wasn’t even a single mention about being interested in art. If “John” really was half as good as he seemed online, he would have been any girl’s Prince Charming. Sometimes certain things are just too good to be true. After a few emails, if I seem to like the guy, I ask him to Facebook me.If they want us, their first impressions better be good (if there’s any men reading this, take note! Sizing up men online is similar to offline, yet there are some differences. If he were to refuse, I could have and should have told him to bug off.When a guy walks up to you in a bar, you just “know” within a few seconds if you’re even going to give him a shot. If he won’t answer the questions then he doesn’t win his prize. Why would I give a complete stranger my phone number until I’ve at least sized him up? Here’s how it works: for each of the following criteria, give him one point per “yes” answer and zero for a “no” answer. I agreed to go on a date with him before really getting to know him. Never once did I stop to think “maybe I should start asking him more personal questions”.
The best way to guarantee he read your profile is by asking a question either at the bottom or somewhere in the middle of your profile. In my vast experience at online dating, I’ve learned quite a few things about men and how they respond to me.Tell him about it and he’ll put you on ignore faster than you can open your tampon wrapper. Acting like you’ve memorized his profile makes you seem desperate. So don’t respond to an email asking about your interest in hiking by saying that you went to the same College and it’s, like, totally awesome and stuff! I’m sure he already knows you went to the same school. And only respond to his messages if they’re worthy of being responded to. He’ll wonder if you’re just sitting around waiting for some guy to contact you. And we all want to avoid attracting men we’re not into. Then we whine and complain to our girlfriends about how every guy is an asshole. But wouldn’t it be more fun to start dating the right men. How we write our profile and the type of pictures we upload will impact the type of men that contact us. In that case, go ahead and post slutty photos of yourself.If they want to get my digits, I want to know they’re truly after me and not just any girl. I have become pretty good at figuring out which guys are BS’ing in their profile based on how they interact with me. We went to one of those trendy restaurants where you’re always going to see beautiful people.